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Part 4 – Relationships


I wish I could tell you that all Christians are wonderful, loving, warm, fun, joyful people, but you know that’s not true. You know it if you are outside of the church and you DEFINITELY know it if you are in it. I talk about this in the book Good Enough for God, so I won’t rehash here, but suffice it to say a relationship with God doesn’t mean you instantly become a non-butthole if you are in need of deliverance from butthole-hood.

That being said, you need to get to know someone who is seeking after God. It’s tough to do this all alone.

The topic of accountability is an interesting one. It is a buzzword in the church that gets overused and underdone. All it really means is “have a friend”. That’s it. Just have a friend. Someone who you can talk to who gets you (in addition to God).

Most men aren’t forthcoming about stuff going on in our lives but a good friend can sense your need and provide a word of encouragement. It’s the little things people say that make a big difference in our lives. You can probably think of a teacher, parent, friend, or other who said something encouraging to you that changed your life. All of us can think of someone who said something hurtful to us that impacted us deeply as well.

People matter. The Bible says it this way in Ecclesiastes 9-12:

9 Two people are better than one, because they can reap more benefit from their labor.10 For if they fall, one will help his companion up, but pity the person who falls down and has no one to help him up. 11 Furthermore, if two lie down together, they can keep each other warm, but how can one person keep warm by himself? 12 Although an assailant may overpower one person, two can withstand him. Moreover, a three-stranded cord is not quickly broken.

If you have a friend who is doing their best with God, have an occasional coffee (or beer) with them. They don’t have to be perfect or sinless. Trust me, those don’t exist.

We’re all on a journey. Anyone who acts perfect isn’t. Anyone who acts like they aren’t good enough for God, is. Faith isn’t about perfection, it’s about progress. It’s about forgiveness when you mess up (and you will, we all do). It isn’t about judgement, it’s about love. A good friendship is a practical way to experience that.

Ask God who you should connect with and take note of whose face or name pops up, even if the face or name isn’t who you expected.

Give them a call. What do you have to lose?

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